The Five Emotional Love Languages ~~

Valentines Day is a little less than a month away.  Do you have that “special someone” in your life?  Make sure you work on that word “special” and be prepared for February 14th.

Here are the five emotional love languages~~~ 1. Words.   2.  Gifts.    3.  Acts of Service.    4.  Quality time.    5.  Physical Touch.

 

1.  Words.  1 Cor. 8:1.   Build up.  Compliment instead of nagging.

 

2.  Gifts.  Eph. 5:25.  “I was thinking about you while we were apart”.

 

3.  Acts of Service.  1 John 3:18.  Do something!***

 

4.  Quality Time.  Mark 3:14.  Undivided attention:  listening and hearing.  One can hear without listening.  Easily!!!!

 

5.  Physical Touch.  Mark 10:13-16.  Husbands and wives almost ALWAYS NEVER have the same Love language.  Learn his love language and give it to him. (Not used to doing that? Better get used to it.)

 

*** My husband had two things that were ALWAYS important to him: 1)  A clean windshield.  2) Polish the golf shoes after a game.  

He would do this after he had rested for a bit.  There were times when the shoes were polished, shined, the shoe trees were in them and they were on the shelf waiting for the next BIG game, when he went out to take care of them.  Many, many, many times, before he got to the garage to put the golf shoes on, I would have the shoe trees out of them and they were waiting for him to put them on.

The windshield?  It always had a way of attracting bugs. I made it a habit – not all the time – but many times – simply go out,  get the paper towels, Windex and do em. 

You know what happened each time?  He would come in put his arms around my waist and say, “thank you, darling. You are always so thoughtful”  Who do you think won the battle that wasn’t had!!!!!!

I will never forget.  He wanted a certain type of hubcap.  Before his birthday one year, I took the car and got them.  Later that day, he took the car to be washed,  He had not yet noticed the change.

When the car was in the drying mode, he would keep his eye out for it.  This one time they came in and got him.  He had been watching for a car with certain hubcaps, but the car had “different” hubcaps  – –  the ones he had been wanting. 

When he came home from the Car Wash, I was in the kitchen and he stood in the kitchen door looking at me.  I looked at him. Neither one of us said anything for a few moments – I was savoring the moment in time when I could please him and the wonderful feeling that had been instilled within.

Marge

 

Seven Thots for more Effective Prayer~~~

Good Tuesday morning to you!!  Let’s start with some “thots” to help us in our praying.  I think this is right-on – – – – the nail has been hit on the head. Good basics for our prayer life.  No gimme, gimme, gimme, but a lot of faith-flavoring and strong belief in who God is and what He can do ~~ when~~ we are in the praying mode of life.  I hope you too will find this very helpful for when you go to your prayer closet, be that a room where you can close the door or the chair in the middle of the room where you sit to study/pray/read in order to be closer to our Heavenly Father and His Son Jesus Christ.  Some place whereby the Holy Spirit can begin to blend/mix/beat the heart that is determined to turn from Satan’s easy ways.

The following is excellent!  It comes from Today’s Topical Bible Study Tools.  I subscribe to it daily and find it top notch.  You might want to have it come your way too.  We are also told that we are told of those in the O.T. so they are examples for us.

 


7 Thoughts for More Effective Prayer

Ron Edmondson

Hezekiah ruled over Judah and was a good and faithful king.

Hezekiah often became the target of warring nations. The king of Assyria, which was a much more powerful nation, made plans to overthrow Hezekiah’s kingdom. Throughout the stressful time in leadership, Hezekiah consistently used the same battle plan.

He went before the Lord in prayer—and—he followed the Lord’s commands.

Hezekiah relied on prayer to rule his life. This king knew how to pray and he prayed in a way that got results.

At one point, the Assyrian king launched a huge smear campaign against Hezekiah with his own people. It scared Hezekiah’s people.

Hezekiah heard about the threat and went before the Lord. God assured Hezekiah everything would be okay, but the Assyrians wouldn’t let up their verbal assaults. They kept taunting the kingdom of Hezekiah, throwing threats towards Hezekiah. Finally, they sent a letter by messenger to Hezekiah, which basically said, “The Assyrians are tough, and they are coming for you next.”

It was a credible, realistic threat. In a practical sense, Hezekiah had reason to be afraid.

What do you do when you are backed into a corner as a leader and you’re about to face something bigger than your ability to handle?

Well, Hezekiah received the letter with all the threats and began to pray.

We find this account in 2 Kings 19:14–19.

What can we learn from listening in as Hezekiah prayed?

Here are 7 Thoughts for More Effective Prayer from a Stressed Out Leader Named Hezekiah:

Hezekiah got alone with God. There is corporate prayer like we do at church, and there is prayer where a few are gathered. But probably some of the most effective prayer time of your life will be the time you invest alone with God.

Hezekiah’s prayer was immediate. His prayer wasn’t an afterthought. It was prior to making his plans. We are so geared to react as leaders that it’s hard for us to go first to God. He may be second or third or first when we are backed into a corner and have no choice, but we need to develop a discipline and habit to make God the first place we turn in our lives. Like Hezekiah.

Hezekiah’s prayer was open and honest. Hezekiah was transparent before the Lord. I love the imagery here in this prayer story of Hezekiah. He took the letter, went to the house of the Lord, and spread it out before Him. I get this visual image of Hezekiah, and this letter—laying it there on the table, and saying, “Okay, God, what now? What do I do next? What’s my first move?”

Are you in a tough spot right now? You may just need to get you some note cards—write down all the things you are struggling with—lay them out on a table and say, “Okay, God, here are my struggles. I can’t do anything about them. What now?”

Writing your prayer requests before God is a great idea for 2 reasons.

a. It helps you remember to pray for them.

b. It helps you to watch as God answers. We get more answers than we realize if we only ask.

Hezekiah’s prayer was honoring, humble, and respectful of who God is. Hezekiah knew his place as king—and he knew God’s place in the Kingdom. Hezekiah was king of a nation and that is an important job, yet Hezekiah willingly humbled himself in prayer, because he knew his place before the King of kings.

Hezekiah’s prayer was bold. He said, “Give ear, O LORD, and hear; open your eyes, O LORD….” Hezekiah had the kind of relationship with God where it wasn’t a surprise when Hezekiah showed up to pray. They talked frequently; probably throughout the day. Because of that relationship, Hezekiah didn’t wonder if God would be there when he came before Him. He knew he could ask God to act on his behalf. The more you grow in your relationship with God, the bolder your prayers can become, because the more your heart will begin to line up with God’s heart.

Hezekiah’s prayer was dependent. In verses 17–18 he prays, “It is true, O LORD, that the Assyrian kings have laid waste these nations and their lands.” Hezekiah knew he was out of his league facing the Assyrians. From the way I see that Hezekiah responded to life, however, I don’t think it mattered the size of the battle. Hezekiah was going to depend on God. Every time. In every situation.

Hezekiah’s prayer was certain. Because it was based on his personal faith and trust in God. In verse 19, Hezekiah prayed, “Now, O LORD our God, deliver us from his hand, so that all kingdoms on earth may know that you alone, O LORD, are God.”

Hezekiah had a faith in God that allowed him to pray with confidence. You need to understand that faith is always based on the promises of God. Some things God has promised to do—and some He hasn’t. God has promised to always get glory for Himself and always work things for an ultimate good. He hasn’t promised to rid everyone of cancer or to heal every bad relationship. Or settle every leadership issue we face.

(That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t pray for everything. We don’t know His will, but we can’t guarantee God to do that which He hasn’t promised to do.) Sometimes we get upset because God doesn’t do something we asked or wanted Him to do, but the fact is He had never promised to do it.

Hezekiah knew God had promised to save His people. He knew God had placed him in the position of authority over them. He had confidence that God would do what He had promised to do. Hezekiah trusted God to be faithful to His word so he was willing to act in faith.

What situations are you dealing with today that you know you are helpless to do on your own and you desperately desire God’s answer?

Are you a stressed out leader?

Get alone with God, spread your problems out before Him honestly, humbly, and boldly; then, allow His will to be done, as you wait for His response.


As we begin the new week ~~~~

~~~~ I want to give you an example of how important it is to check out the various versions of the Bible when you are memorizing the Word.

You want to get the wording that moves your soul, not simply memorize from the Bible you ALWAYS use.  That is “dry stuff”.

I want to give you the NIV, the NKJV and the NASB version(s) of Acts 4:12 and Isa. 33:6a.

For the Acts verse – I chose the complete verse of the NASB.

For the ISAIAH verse – I chose the beginning of the verse.  It hit me strongly.  It seemed like pounding a concrete nail into concrete.  It works! It is stable! It is strong and not movable!

See what you think as you look at three  Bibles and the different wording.

NIV.

“There is salvation in no one else!  God has given no other name under heaven by which we must be saved.”

NKJV.

“Nor is there salvation in any other, for there is no other name under heaven given among men by which we must be saved.”

NASB.

“And there is salvation in no one else; for there is no other name under heaven that has been given among men by which we must be saved.” (BANG!  BONG! BOOM! Those words hit right between the eyes!!!!!!  No ifs, ands, or buts!!!!)

 

NOW.  I want to give you one of my very favorite verses from the past nine and a half years.  One that has given me umph – peace – and was the common denominator of many, many of my days when the tsunami was hitting the hardest.

ISAIAH 33:6a

NIV.

“He will be the sure foundation for your times, a rich store of salvation and wisdom and knowledge; fear of the Lord is the key to this treasure.”

NKJV.

“Wisdom and knowledge will be the stability of your times, and the strength of salvation.  The fear of the Lord is His treasure.”

NASB.

“And He shall be the stability of your times, a wealth of salvation, wisdom and knowledge;  The fear of the Lord is his treasure.”

 

Take these two verses and go over them and see for yourself which one knocks you down!!!!!!  Which one satisfies your umph that you want from a verse! Which one is absolutely COMPLETE in its wording, to your thinking.

In a few days I will give you another verse of mine and the one I have chosen to use is from none of these three.  It happens this time that both verses are from the NASB, but frankly I don’t use it much any more as the NKJV is more accurate and I happen to have one that I can read easily as well.   In reality you don’t have to have all of the Bibles in your possession as Bible Gateway.com gives you any verse you want to see.  It is wonderful to have access to.

Have a good day.  Marge

This particular post ~~~~

“I have been turning from writing so much about day-to-day feelings/thoughts/actions that happen as a result of the death of a spouse where much love has been preserved and yet freely handed out.  I think it is because February 14th is slowly creeping up on me and everywhere I look, there it is.  But as I was doing my dishes tonight, I happen to look over on my refrigerator door and saw “A Normal Day” where it has been since 1972 when I first read it and made sure I never would forget it.  In my book “One Woman’s Journey into Widowhood”, it was a major part of the beginning of that little book.  I want to post it tonight so all of you can have a copy if you so wish to print it.

A NORMAL DAY!

“Holding it in my hand this one last moment I have come to see it as more than an ordinary rock. It is a gem, a jewel.

“In time of war, in peril of death people have dug their hands and faces into the earth and remembered this.

“In time of loneliness and separation people have stretched themselves taut and waited for this.

“In time of hunger, homelessness, and want, people have raised bony hands to the skies and stayed alive for this.

Normal Day, let me be aware of the treasure you are.  Let me learn from you, love you, savor you, and bless you before you depart.  Let me not pass you by in quest of some rare and perfect tomorrow.  Let me hold you while I may for it will not always be so.

“One day I shall dig my nails into the earth, or bury my face in the pillow, or stretch myself taut, or raise my hands to the sky and want more than all the world your return. And then I will know what now I am guessing – – that you are, indeed, a common rock and not a jewel but that common rock made of the very mass substance of the earth, in all its strength and plenty, puts a gem to sham.

“The day is over and now I will sleep.”

Mary Jean Irion wrote this beautiful essay and it was included in a book of essays published in 1970, entitled, “Yes. World.  A Mosaic of Meditation”.

 

Ah, yes!  Normal Day.  That “one day” came and I have buried my face in my pillow, raised my hands to the sky and “wanted more than anything your return.”  I DO REMEMBER how “The Normal Day” could put any gem to sham.  It was soooooooooo much more.  Yes I  remember it’s beauty and the day’s blessings that came with each day that many times I took for granted.  Now though, those 41 years a/k/a 14,965 days were more precious than gold and will always remain in the vault of my heart.  I have been so very blest in every single way possible; hard times, easy times, beautiful times, ugly times, rich times, poor times, in health and in sickness times.

(Yes!  And though there have been those 14,965 days ~~~~ besides those there have been 3,650 days since then, without my lover but very much blest indeed!)

Abiding in the Shadow of my Lord

Marge

Rules for Holy Living

I am not one who likes the word “rules”, but that was the title of this Study some years back, The Study was on COLOSSIANS and the title was “Rules for Holy Living”.  So we will leave it that way.

Colossians 3:1-17

The vindictive and imperative of me.  Vss. 1-10 give the standing and state of me. (Now before we go on, I will use “me” and “I” but as you study this, put yourself right in the picture. Verses are indicated in red).

Dead 3, raised 1, in heaven 3, taken off old self 4, put on new self 10.

Because of the above, I am to set my heart (mind) 1-2 on things above – –

put to death things that belong to my earthly nature 5.

Rid myself of all practices that characterize my unregenerate self 8.

Am called upon to become in daily experience what I am positionally in Christ, OR become in experience what I am already by God’s grace.

Colossians 1:9-21

Jesus is the complete picture of God.  God has completely revealed Himself in Jesus Christ.  When we see Jesus, we see God eternal in the flesh.  Vs. 16:  TREMENDOUS!!!

He created ALL things.

Nothing has been invented.  Only discoverable.  Its been there all along.

1:10.  Please Him in every phase of my life.

 

There you have it in a nut shell.  We have so much available to us simply by asking the Father. Talk to Him.  Pray to Him. Let Him know your hurts ~~ your dreams ~~ your desires ~~ your hopes ~~ your doubts.  Let Him change you as no other can.  He is right there with you — waiting in the wings for your turn toward Him with nothing except ~~~~~~ Lord, change me.  Change me as only You can do.

Have a wonderful weekend.

In His Hands and On His Road. Marge H.

Potpourri Stop-over

This is a breather from our norm together.  Potpourri of life. So much going on and different for each one.  Today is a lighter side of life, but just as important in many ways.

RECIPES

All time favorite dessert:  PEACH COBBLER

1 large can peaches, 1 c. each milk, flour, sugar. 1/2 c. melted butter, 1/2 tsp. each nutmeg, cinnamon.

Mix flour sugar, spices and butter. pour into 8×8 pan.  Mix peaches, juice and sugar together.  Pour on top of the flour mixture.  No need to stir.  Bake 350 degrees for 45 minutes.

BLACK BEAN/CORN/CHICKEN – Crock Pot style

1 pkg. boneless thighs, 1 pt. Swansons Chicken Broth, cook on high 5 hours.  Shred.

Add:  2 cans *Black beans, 1 can *white corn, 2 cans *diced tomatoes, 2 T. MILD Taco Seasoning, 8 oz. cream cheese. Continue on low for 3 more hours.  Serve.

I always add the juice from the vegetables.  When getting diced tomatoes, I get the Italian Diced Tomatoes. Like the seasonings that are in them.  I  get “white” corn as it does not seem as “tough” as the yellow.

REMEDIES

~~~~~Sore throat.  Gargle 3x a day with quite warm salt water.

REMEMBER

~~~~~When having an early morning appointment and need to fast including not taking meds before the blood work, the night before, put one of your prescription bottles on the counter by your lavatory UPSIDE DOWN.  That reminds you NOT to take them YET.

SHORTCUTS

~~~~~Need more room in the cabinet area in the kitchen?  Take two of the same size COMMAND “hooks” and your skillet or kettle lid, hold the lid inside the two hooks so they will be placed correctly and put the two hooks on the inside of cabinet door.

~~~~~Save your toilet tissue and paper towel tubes.  Use them to store extension cords, etc.

~~~~~Serving punch for a get-together?  Make ice cubes out of the juice, i.e. cranberry, grape, whatever your main ingredient is.  This will keep your punch from being diluted.

~~~~~Frozen grapes.  Use the red, seedless grapes when they are on sale.  Wash them and remove the stems.  Dry them. Place them in a single layer on a cookie sheet that will fit in your refrigerator (deep freeze if you have a freezer).  When they have frozen solid put them immediately into baggies.  These make wonderful treats.  Have a dish of them to pass around at the table from time to time as well.

~~~~~General rule of thumb!  When taking the last item from the drawer or shelf be sure the next time out, that you purchase the replacement for it so you are not caught short-handed, i.e. ink for the printer, or any OTC meds that you take normally.

~~~~~Holes in your walls where you have used nails?  Use white (not gel form) toothpaste to fill them.

~~~~~Artificial plants/trees in your home?  Take them out on a hot summer day and wash them down with the hose.  Leave them in the sun to dry. (I do mine twice a year, once before Easter and once after Hallowe’en)

~~~~~WalMart has Copy paper in packages of 750 sheets, instead of 500.

Enjoy.  Next time we will return to God’s Word and what He has for us there.

In His Hands.  Marge

 

 

Welcome~~ New Dehli

WOW!  You are a  l-o-n-g. way from here.  I hope you will find comfort, quietness and peace on each of your stop-overs at my site.

Today for each of you, with it being the beginning of a New Year, it is always a good time to take inventory of all we do and all we should taper a bit, and all we should do away with and all we should _______________________ (you name it).

First and foremost is our quiet time each day.  I sometimes begin to get in a rut because it is more comfortable that way or I am too lazy to begin something that I have to “remember” for a while before it gets mundane.  Ever felt that way?  Thot so!!

I have notebooks of notes, lessons, etc, and so I am sharing some of those with you during these next few months.  Hope you find them as helpful as I have.


HOW TO CHOOSE A QUIET TIME TODAY~~~~

GOAL OF THE QUIET TIME:  TO KNOW GOD PERSONALLY.

This is a daily experience with Jesus from which our whole life draws direction, strength, joy, and vitality.

TWO STEPS INVOLVED IN KNOWING HIM

First must MEET Him. (Have I put my trust in Him?)

I must SPEND TIME with Him.  Devote more effort to knowing God better.  (This is not automatic)

INGREDIENTS of a Quiet Time with my Lord~~~~

TIME.  Regular, habitual time every day. (Psa. 143:8)

The WORD OF GOD.  Need to become used to God’s way of thinking about matters.  He {speaks) to me as I read His truth.  (Isa. 55:8,9)

The HOLY SPIRIT.  This is “God in Residence” in the heart of every believer.  He will lead me to a fuller, more personal knowledge of God.  (Eph. 1:17)

PRAYER.  God wants me to come to Him in prayer.  To talk to Him. He promises complete joy, as a result of prayer in His Name.  (John 16:24)

OBEDIENCE.  In my quiet time I will receive leadership from God concerning my life. As I obey, my knowledge of God increases.  Obedience should not be feared.  It is a joyful, progressive, learning experience.  (John 14:21)

The above “Plan” is a mouthful.  Hard to accomplish unless we come humbly to Him and ask of Him, insight into His Word, understanding to maintain what He wants in just our own heart and mind – not some one elses.  We need to close that closet door each day (even if we are sitting in the middle of a room), still,  it can be our “closet” whereby He sits across from us and teaches and files the sharp edges of the heart, and closes the door on Satan’s attendance on your conversation with the Lord.

Satan is the most professional of all.  He knows a lot, don’t ever underestimate Him.  HE IS POWERFUL but always remember God has the letters ALL written before that word POWERFUL and He is the One with the last word on, in, or with anything.

Let me warn you.  You might find yourself a few weeks or months down the road, wanting to spend more time in the Word.  BE SURE THAT IS FROM THE LORD AND NOT SATAN.  Yes.  You read correctly.  You see, he has a way of getting you on a little bit further and then showing you that you are taking way too much time and it costs you frayed hours trying to catch up on everything else and then down the road further, you decide to “cut back” on your Quiet Time.  Back further than the Lord would want.  You see. Satan does have ways of curtailing your very best intentions.  Watch out for him.  He is powerful.  God is ALL POWERFUL!!

Remember God gave Satan the go-ahead to do whatever he wanted to with Job EXCEPT take his life.  Satan went hog-wild and did it all, but Job’s life was spared. So you see, IN THE END, who will have the last say.

So pray earnestly for God’s leading and blessing upon your quiet time.  Then daily with Bible in hand, marker, pen or pencil, and notebook in hand, sit down expecting to hear from the Lord…..expecting great things from the Lord.

There won’t be earth moving things but you may find a speck of calmness within your heart…..you may find God has touched your mind and making you more responsive to verses…..you may even feel like staying a few moments longer in the Word.  YOU WILL KNOW.  “Something” has been touched early on and then later your love for the Lord will make you more and more hungry for His Word and then the two of you, together, will change your world, if it is only a different relationship with your dog – – – it will happen.

Lord!  Change us. Make us more like You. Give us direction.  Set a hedge round us.  We pray that Satan might be bound in thought, deeds, and actions. Set our hearts and minds and souls on fire for Your Will to be permanently solidified within us.  Yes, Lord.  And thank You also.  In Jesus’ Name.  Amen.

 

Til next time.  In His Hands and On His Road.  Marge