It is time for me to go through, once again, files. Each time I do this I am able to shred more and more. I have a goal of getting my things down to the place whereby it all could be moved to a room in our JT’s building if and when the need arises.
I have gotten my closet down to 50% less than it was, but I need to go further on that. And I am in the process and in due time it will be done.
But for now, it is the files. Materials that I have used in other years. Materials that Loren used in his teaching days. Some of which I have not been able to “let go” but the process is continuing and little by little the files are becoming fewer and fewer.
“The Art of Marriage”
The Art of Marriage helps to “feather the nest” with a warm, secure atmosphere in which those strong, silent, indirect parental influences become more effective. Here are the ways.
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. In the art of marriage the ‘little things’ are the ‘big things’.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say ‘I love you’, at least once each day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship shouldn’t end with the honeymoon; it should continue through all the years.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have the wings of an angel. It is not looking for perfection in each other. It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is finding room for the things of the Spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is ‘being’ the right partner.
It is discovering what marriage can be, at its best, as expressed in the words of Mark Twain used in a tribute to his wife: ‘Wherever she was, there was Eden.’
Indirect parenting has a lot to do with ALL of the above. I know of couples that I have never seen hold hands – no-show of intimacy in their marriage. (But then I never saw it in their parents either!) So what do you expect!!
When you see couples who walk out separately, or never express a bit of love outwardly in public, there is so very much missing in that marriage and it ALWAYS shows.
If you are married, take a moment. See what you might improve upon from the above.
Loren taught for a full three months on Marriage. There would be paperwork for them to take home and there were Sundays that we co-taught together and that was fun and enriching as well. It happened a long time ago. He began the Fall session of teaching on Sept. 7, 1969. He had twelve couples in the class, all married under two years.
The Art of Marriage was part of the handouts for that Sunday’s introduction. So long ago. Yet. So alive in my memory bank.